This week we have a very special guest post from our Shop Manager, Stephen:
Let this Lumbersexual Papa Bear drop some love knowledge on you stimulating humans of the planet earth. This time of the year, we generally become more introspective, reflecting on the past year, how we can move past our mistakes and become better versions of ourselves.
But perhaps, this year, let’s not just be introspective about ourselves but also “introrelationshipspective” and really think how we can make ourselves and our partners happy.
I was trying to find a way to make my schnookums happy for Valentine’s Day, while also thinking outside the chocolate box. When I came across a book written by Gary Chapman, called The Five Languages of Love, (recommended by Momma Wood Thumb aka Suzanne Steinrueck). It speaks to filling the “love tank” by using the five languages of love: Words of Affirmation, Acts of service, Affection, Quality Time and Gifts.
Okay, I didn’t read the book but I did read the synopsis and it still left an impression on me.
The overall message of the book is that we all feel love in different ways; some prefer a gift, another good conversation without distractions, while others need only a kind word once in a while to fill their “love tank.”
Since “skimming” The Five Languages of Love, I’ve reflected on what actually makes my shnookie pants happy- not just blindly following the tired traditions our culture dictates to me. We are all different and want different things from our lovers – I feel most loved with quality time, whereas my turtle dove is more of an affection type. Knowing this, we can plan a Valentine’s Day activity that has us speaking the same language of love.
So this Valentine’s Day, be it material or more of a gesture give a gift that shows you took time to learn how your partner feels most loved by you.